I am a Dom in both my 1st Life and 2nd Life. In 1st Life, I have been a Dom and dominant for as long as I can remember. That covers many years now. In 2nd Life, my journey as a Dom began sometime after the creation of my original avatar. The Lifestyle and being a Dom, however, were not the interests that brought me to 2nd Life initially. Having said that, being a Dom is what defines me. It is who I am and how I see myself.

What follows on this page are my insights, thoughts and views on the lifestyle, submission, and ownership. There are 1st Life aspects detailed here, as well as purely 2nd Life aspects. The latter, however, would also be valid in any other online virtual world or environment. This page and the information presented here will change in time as this site evolves and develops. For now, it represents a migration and transition from my 2nd Life profile.

About Me:

I am a 45 year old BDSM Dom living on the East Coast of the United States in the State of Maryland. I have been a practicing Dom since the mid-80s and consider myself to be a strict, but loving sadist, sarcastic and evil in a good way. I am married and have three kids. For many years, my wife was my submissive and together we kept a poly home. Today, however, my wife is no longer my submissive and is no longer in the lifestyle. I keep no secrets, though, and she fully knows and supports my desire and need to be a Dom.

Ethical Disclosure:

I will be the first to admit I am not perfect. I have my faults and weaknesses, as does everyone. I have made bad choices and have not lived up to my own ethical standards. The reasons for my faltering and failures are long and complicated. They involve aspects of both my 1st Life and 2nd Life. Unlike most, though, I have the capacity to admit my wrongs. 

Disclosure, however, is not a one sided process. As I have failed and faltered, so have others. My bad choices and ethically poor actions, do not give others that have been involved a free pass on their own shortcomings. It does not give others the right to judge me while not taking responsibility for their own actions and conduct. Disclosure is disclosure… 

I have made poor choices, yes. My ethical conduct and actions have been poor at times in the past, yes. I am not the person I used to be, yes. But… I have the strength to correct my wrongs and be the person I am and wish to be. Love me or hate me, I will not run from my mistakes.

Slave or Submissive:

As a Dom, I prefer to own a slave or a submissive with a slave heart. Few to no limits and a burning desire to please are traits that look for, desire, and expect. Experienced or novice does not matter. Training is a part of any ownership and is an aspect of being a Dom that absolutely love. Above all… it is effort that matters. It is not whether a slave/sub succeeds or fails, it is the effort she shows and puts forth.

Qualities:

There are qualities I look for and demand from any submissive. They are honesty, loyalty, and trust. Without these qualities there can never be devotion or respect between a submissive and an Owner. Each of these qualities, along with the devotion and respect they generate and foster, requires constant and continual verification. The fact that these qualities are freely given upfront means nothing if they are not valued and/or guarded consistently over time. NEVER expect me, as a person or as a Dom, to respect or be devoted to another that cannot offer me these same qualities.

Fantasy:

Fantasy seekers in 1st Life or 2nd Life can move on. This is a “real” zone. Roleplay is not real. It is fantasy wrapped in text and a story. Being a Dom in the lifestyle defines me. It is who I am in both 1st and 2nd Life. I expect the same from any slave/sub that has an interest in submitting and serving, even if new to the lifestyle or inexperienced. Know and understand who you are… Know and understand what you are… Be serious. Have a desire to learn and grow as a slave or submissive. Be REAL!!

Submission:

Submission is a subjective term. I have found it means something different for every slave/sub I have owned in 1st Life or 2nd Life. To clarify MY views on submission, I have compiled the following:

SUBMISSION IS NOT…

• Role play or fantasy.
• Sex, kink, or fetishes for your own pleasure.
• Stating you have no limits, when you do.
• Being submissive only when it is convenient.
• Setting your desires and needs as priority over those of your Owner.
• Craving the attention and desires of others.

SUBMISSION IS…

• Giving control of yourself, your life, and your use completely over to your Owner while focusing on pleasing only him or her  unconditionally.
• A strength and freedom beyond all others when there is complete and unconditional trust and devotion.