I found myself in what I thought was a friendly chat the other day at the Gor Hub. I was sitting in a comfy chair and observing the goings and comings that is the “Hub” when I began talking with a woman that teleported in next to me. At first, it was the typical 2nd Life getting to know you chat. Then… the discussion took a strange turn.

What was the topic of discussion, you ask? It was about one’s nature as a submissive or a dominant and whether or not modern humans fall into those categories or whether “evolution” has stripped us of the those basic traits for a reality that is less black and white and more grey.

Now, if you have read this blog at all, you know my views already. I am a Dom and a Sadist of many years. That is who I am and who I have been. Being dominant has defined both my personal and professional life. The woman I was talking to was a submissive, or so I thought, and was located in Germany. 

The submissive’s points of view went something like this:

• One’s nature as a submissive or dominant, is not a black and white position.
• If those broad categories were the true nature of things, it would be a boring world.
• There are no broad categories or traits in individuals, but rather people are composed of a mix of many characteristics.
• There is no natural order of things or rather the order of things seen in nature no longer applies to humans.

All of these point are certainly valid given specific contexts. That said, these points are also the usual points that a Switch would give to the justification of their position. This isn’t going to be post on Switches, but I will just say… I do not believe in Switches. Every Switch I have ever met, 1st Life or 2nd Life, prefers either the dominant role or the submissive role and they basically switch because it maximizes their kink and sexual cravings.

After the submissive was finished expressing her views, I countered with mine.

• There is a natural order to life on this planet. It can be seen in nature and in human culture(s), both past and present.
• Like predator and prey, being a dominant or a submissive is a very real broad trait in one’s personality, even if not known or directly expressed or acted on.
• The black and white aspect of being dominant or submissive is that these categories exist and are real.

This is where the conversation passed into the realm of a jaw dropper, what-the-fuck moment for me. This submissive actually started to try and defend the notion that the transfer of natural mechanisms to humans was “useless” since “we humans have hardly nothing to do with nature anymore as evolution did not go by without making it’s mark on us”.

Then the submissive’s point turned a bit more personal when she asked me, “hows about dropping your ego totally? …that would be a way to become natural again?” lmao… It always comes down to the personal attack, doesn’t it? Two people having and honest debate and when one of the people can no longer defend their position, it turns personal. Typical and sad…

The conversation turned one sided at that point with me stating I do not see how anyone that believes humans have evolved in the same closed system as everything else around us is somehow above that process. To me… That thought and point of view is what screams “ego”. 

Humans have not left this closed system. Humans are still apart of it. And… The closed system and the evolution processes that created us still influence and shape us today. This means that those broad categories of traits we see around us, like “prey and predator” and “domination and submission” exist in us and will continue to exist in us. We cannot separate ourselves from the processes that created us. 

This is not a question of black and white vs grey. Like it or hate it, this is a fact of life as it evolved on this planet. These broad categories and traits at their basic level define us. Welcome to planet Earth!! :)